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a dude came into the library stoned out of his mind and was like, “do I need a library card to look at books?” And I said, “to take books home, yes. To look at them, no” and he looked so relieved. bro was staring at a fish encyclopedia for like an hour and then just left.
There’s an analysis to be made here about how cishet men don’t actually want to impress women, they want to impress other men.
Men love to bring up he-man and superman as examples of unrealistic standards women have for men but those standards aren’t being set by women. There was also a post I recall from a while ago where cishet men were getting confused over cishet women’s preferences for fictional men, when a woman expressed that she liked Roger Radcliffe (a tall lanky softie) men were surprised because they thought women would be attracted to the absolute charicature of masculinity Gaston.
The glorification of hypermasculine characters in men’s eyes is at it’s root also a form of the male gaze. When the male gaze is directed at women it’s a sexual fantasy. When the male gaze is directed at men it’s a power fantasy.
And all that’s not even to mention the fact that guys like this are so obsessed with their belief that this is what women want that they won’t even listen when women say otherwise. Think about any male fitness influencer. Chances are you’ve seen at least one of them throw a tantrum and insist that women want ripped muscular dudes after being explicitly told that that’s generally not what they want. Personally I can think of two from this month alone.
At the end of the day it was the patriarchy that planted this idea that they are only desireable if they’re ripped and they have convinced themselves that it’s what women want. But it’s not. They’re genuinely doing this to impress other mess regardless of what women think, and a lot of them don’t even realize it
“people talking about ned from try guys cheating when boyinaband was just outed for being a sexual predator!!!” who the fuck are any of these people. are you guys growing asshole content creators in a fucking vat somewhere where are you finding these guys
every day some big tweet like “nobody’s talking about how flungusgaming said slurs on stream.. :|” and every time it’s literally some guy with millions of subscribers who i have never heard of or seen in my life
tumblr is the best social media site because if you put he/they in your twitter bio every day until the end of time someone will respond to your tweets with “ummmm pronouns in bio, opinion invalid 🧐” and think they’re sooo cool for it but on tumblr you could post something like “I’m a girl like if a woman was a boy. anyways. laser beams you” and it would get. 5 billion note
Learn to say “can you love me a bit harder today? It’s a rough day” and then explain how you want to be loved harder.
Learn to say “I could use some support. Are you able to provide some? This is how you can support me -“
Learn to say “I feel lonely. Are you able to keep me company?”
Learn to say “I’m feeling overwhelmed. Can I talk to you about it?”
Do this instead of dropping hints or expecting someone to be able to read you. What may be obvious to you isn’t necessarily obvious to someone else. You’re often hurting your own feelings by not communicating your needs and just hoping people meet them anyways.
I know this is easier said than done. We often drop hints because we feel ashamed or bad about asking for help. But the truth is, for most of our loved ones, us hinting at things is exhausting. It can also set them up for failure because they don’t know your expectations. Sometimes they miss hints but sometimes they ignore them because it’s more draining when they aren’t asked directly. It’s very likely your loved one would appreciate you being direct.
People often want to support and help you, but a lot of them like to be told how they can do that.
